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Welcome to Bully Free Living

         "Although bullies have been around from the days of the one room school house, experts say they are more vicious today and the consequences deadly. A major cause of school shootings and teen suicide that schools are failing to recognize or stop."

       "16 year old girl was teased from the time she was in the fifth grade, but her true nightmare began in middle school. Typically the peak years for bullying."

                          ...Connie Chung

From November 28th 2001 episode of ABC's '20/20'


*****Special Notice*****

We have received valuable feedback from our daily tips newsletter subscribers. In response, we have now included information and advice for adult victims of bullies. You might be intimidated by the CEO of a huge corporation who holds your job in his or her power, or by a bully who lives down the block, or by a co-worker, your hairdresser, your spouse, or even your own kids. Our newsletter has been redesigned to give tips, help, and advice to victims of all ages.

***Be sure to check out our special reports at the bottom of this page***

#1 What To Do If Your Child is Accused Of Being A Bully

#2Ten Ways To Build Self-esteem and Self-Confidence

#3 What To Do If Your Child is The Victim Of A Bully

#4 Seven Things You Must Do To Have Bully Free Living

You, as parents, must keep in mind that it is your responsibility to educate and protect your children in every way. To rely on teachers and schools alone to give the life lessons that are so important would be a HUGE mistake!

The Number 1 Sign a Bully Looks For...

Lack of self-confidence and low-self-esteem. The bully will always look for what they believe to be the weakest target. They don't want to take a chance on someone fighting back. They are out to prove their superiority, not to look foolish.

Does your child walk with his/her head down? Does he/she appear timid?  Do you KNOW that your child lacks self-confidence and self-esteem?

You Need to Step Up and Take Action!

You can help your children build their self-esteem and self-confidence easier than you think! It is simply a matter of doing little things consistently, day in and day out, that helps them to feel good about themselves.



Intimidation can affect you at any age. It can come from a fellow classmate, a friend, a boss, a teacher, or even a family member. There is no age when bullying and intimidation stop. When you feel intimidated, you automatically take an inferior position to the person doing the bullying. you feel unworthy.

For example

You may feel less powerful, less important, or even less worthwhile. Instead of fearing that someone might criticize you or make you feel unworthy, you need to internalize the reality that you are equal to that person and worthy of respect. you gain power when you are confident in your identity; you gain self-worth and can overcome any type of intimidation.

Good self-esteem and self-confidence will cause your child to walk with their head up and their shoulders back. The bully will look for someone else to target.


Allow Us to Introduce Ourselves

Steve & Lisa

Lisa McChesney

Hello my name is Lisa.  I am a 7th grade teacher at Odyssey Middle School in Orlando, Florida.

I love teaching and have dedicated myself to improving and inspiring young minds to be all that they can be.

Sadly, I have also witnessed the results of low self-esteem and low self-confidence. As the headline from ABC's 20/20 says, middle school is fertile ground for bullies. That is why it is imperative that we start bully proofing our children from birth!

I've also had the opportunity to meet with many, many parents. A common thread among  them is their frustration on how to help their children feel confident and secure.

I'm a firm believer that we can help children help themselves by building their self-esteem and self-confidence.

That is why my husband and I have put together a daily tip newsletter to help parents with this quest of raising Bully Free Kids!

Steve McChesney

God bless my wife, she truly is dedicated to the kids that are our future.

Hi, I'm Steve.  I'm the other half.

Actually, I should say I'm 1/5th of the team. You see we also have three daughters who help us, through trial and error, develop the skills that we hope to share with you.

My profession is that of a Program Director, running three karate schools. If you happen to be in Orlando, feel free to drop by Internal Power Martial Arts and say hello.

Parents bring their kids to our martial arts schools for a variety of reasons, however the main ones that I hear are that they want their children to have more focus, or more self-control. The kids, on the other hand, want to learn how to fight like the Power Rangers or Bruce Lee.

The truth of the matter is that the parents and the kids both get what they want, kind of! The children do gain more focus and self-control which, in turn, raises their self-esteem and self-confidence. They also learn not to fight. That's right, not to fight. That's because with heightened self-confidence and self-esteem, they do not need to prove themselves. With greater self-control, they know how to walk away from a fight.

Don't get me wrong, they also learn how to defend themselves if confronted with a situation where they can't walk away.

A good martial arts school will tell you that the martial arts is only the avenue. The destination is successful, focused, determined, self-confident, respectful, courteous kids with lots of self-control.

Included in our daily tip newsletter is insight from some of the most respected martial artists in the world.

Most Importantly We are Parents!

Our experience not only comes from being parents, but it just so happens that our professions also involve dealing with children. We feel very lucky that we can have such an impact on so many lives. It's not a responsibility that we take lightly.

We would like to share with you our 'Bully-Free Living' daily tip newsletter. You will receive it in your email Monday through Friday for an entire year.

Each tip is brief, concise, and to the point on how you can help build self-esteem and self-confidence in yourself and your children. There will also be tips on improving and lowering your stress levels. We believe that children, by association, can reflect the stress levels of their parents, and that the ability of the parents to control their stress can be extremely beneficial to their child's mental health.

We will share with you our advice as well as advice from others who deal with these issues everyday.

What others have said about our tips!

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"I've been enjoying your daily tips. They are definitely inspiring, make me think and help in all aspects of parenting. These tips are short, sweet and hit home when we're in the daily turmoil of trying to raise our children as best we can under sometimes un-ideal circumstances. The daily advice is a wonderful reminder to reinforce strength of character in my girls to better help them cope with other children who don't always treat others as my daughters have been taught. Thank you!"

                                    -- Rexanne Mancini

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                               -- Doug Loftus, Assistant Principal, University High School             

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                               -- Lisa Crangle, President                                                             UNITY - Connecting Youth and Adults to Create a Trusting Community 


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Being a mother of six, it is an understatement to say that the BullyFree
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When your messages arrive, I read them carefully and save them for future
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Thank you so much for the tremendously courageous work you are doing!
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                                        -- Debbie Oliver, Cleftadvocate.com


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Please do include my testimonial! I think you guys are doing an awesome job! Keep up the great work! "

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We will show you our appreciation by sending you the following bonus reports

BonusReport #1

What To Do If Your Child Is Accused Of Being A Bully.

Has your child been accused of bullying? What should you do? Is it true?

This guide will answer your questions and give you guidance on how to handle the accusation

BonusReport #2

10 Ways To Build Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence in Your Children

Self-esteem is a muscle that needs to be exercised in order to grow.

This special report gives you 10 ways to build this very important muscle.

Bonus Report#3

Is your Child The Victim Of A Bully?

Everyone has seen the news stories, read the newspaper reports, and has discussed the real issues of bullying.

Bonus Report#4

Seven Things You Must Do To Have Bully Free Living

Seven habits you can incorporate into your life to prevent bullying